Women often come to Wanting It More with partners in varying degrees of willingness and enthusiasm. 

What I have observed is that husbands who are open to learning, adjusting and responding to their wife's new discoveries can help her implement the paths quicker, usually resulting in a faster outcome.

If your husband is reluctant to participate in relationship adjustments, change is still 100% possible but it may take longer than expected and your results may initially take the form of personal transformation. 

In my experience, a partner’s pornography use can negatively affect your desire and this topic will be addressed in the program. 

Some women can find a group experience about sex a little… intimidating? Awkward? Uncomfortable? This makes a lot of sense given the world we live in.

To help you with your decision, here are a few thoughts.

First, confidentiality. Everyone signs a confidentiality agreement and our discussions are hosted either on our private online forum or Zoom.

You can decide how much or how little you share with the group but greater participation generally improves your outcome. 

There is always an inherent risk to sharing online regardless of how many safeguards are put in place. 

The reason I take this risk, and ask others to as well, is because of the  profound benefits of group support. Because sex is so shrouded in shame and secrecy, it’s incredibly healing to finally speak openly about this topic in an understanding environment.

The calls are usually profoundly moving and lasting friendships are often formed that extend after the program ends. 

I strive to create an inclusive environment that makes space for all lived experiences including those with or without children, those with or without supportive husbands, those younger and older, all gender and sexual identities, those with religious and non-religious beliefs, and all cultural backgrounds.

For context, our communities are predominantly cis-gendered, heterosexual, able-bodied and white. Increasing diversity in our groups is something I’m aware of and working on.  

There is no 1-1 support in Wanting It More although I guarantee there will always be time for your questions during our group coaching calls.

All coaching call recordings and our online discussion space are permanently deleted after 1 month of the program ending to protect your privacy. You'll continue to have access to the Weekly Class recordings after the program ends. 

What I like to say is that this program is called “wanting” it more, not “having” it more. If you are currently having sex that you do not want, there will most likely be a decrease in the amount you have it, at least in the short term. 

I define “wanting” as feeling fond of the sexual experience, missing it if it doesn’t happen and yearning for the sense of closeness, connection and intimacy it can provide. 

Most women who take this program have “responsive desire” and I offer a structure for the sexual experience that honours this biological difference. It may be different than what you expect being in the mood would feel like. 

While some women don’t experience this, it’s more likely than not that there will be times in this journey that will feel really uncomfortable. 

The fact is- what was happening in your relationship and sex life before wasn’t working, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking for change. And change can be messy.

While my overall goal is to help you have a wonderfully intimate relationship with your husband, getting there may involve difficult conversations, periods of tension and things looking like they are getting worse before they get better.

In addition to this reality-check, I can also reassure you that I have witnessed hundreds of women come through the messy middle and find a deeper connection with their partners on the other end.

How willing your husband is can affect your timeline.

A group experience can feel vulnerable at first.

Growth isn't always linear.

Wanting it more doesn't always mean having it more.

A few things to consider...