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IN THIS EPISODE: What if sex was never meant to create connection—but to celebrate the connection that’s already there? In this episode, Janna sits down with John for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most common dynamics in long-term relationships: when one partner looks to sex for closeness while the other needs […]

202. What Sex Was Never Meant to Do – with John

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IN THIS EPISODE: When Penny began questioning the messages she’d received about sex, she uncovered something far deeper than a lack of desire. For years, she’d been taught that sex was something she owed her husband rather than an experience she was allowed to enjoy herself. Penny shares how those beliefs shaped her marriage, her […]

201. What Happened When She Stopped Believing She Was the Problem – with Penny | Ep. 201

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IN THIS EPISODE: Has sex become less about connection and more about keeping the peace? In this episode, Janna talks with Joanna about a pattern many couples quietly fall into, where sex becomes a way to restore harmony, avoid conflict, or make a partner happier rather than an experience rooted in mutual desire, pleasure, and […]

199. When Sex Becomes Emotional Currency – with Joanna

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IN THIS EPISODE: What happens when loving someone means letting go of the need to fix them? Derek shares his journey of realizing that his attempts to rescue and support his wife were unintentionally creating distance between them. After years of trying to pull her out of pain and show her how wonderful life could […]

198. Why “Fixing” Your Partner Can Destroy Connection- with Derek

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IN THIS EPISODE: What if one of the keys to a more connected relationship isn’t communicating better—but paying closer attention? In this episode, Janna and her husband pull back the curtain on a practice they’ve been intentionally developing in their marriage: attunement. Rather than waiting for your partner to tell you exactly what they need, […]

197. Mutual Attunement for a Better Sex Life – with Janna & Dwayne

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IN THIS EPISODE: When Lauren was invited to share her story on the podcast, she hesitated. Talking publicly about your sex life isn’t easy—especially when your experience doesn’t fit the cultural script of what a “healthy” woman is supposed to want. Then she surprised us with an unexpected suggestion: what if her sister joined the […]

196. Two Sisters, Two Stories, One Impossible Standard – with Lauren & Christine

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IN THIS EPISODE: In this surprisingly vulnerable conversation, Brian — a former fire chief turned maintenance mechanic — shares his story of growing up with almost no sex education beyond, “don’t get her pregnant,” and the quiet pressures men often carry alone. Together, we explore fear, conditioning, hard conversations, and what it looks like to […]

195. Men, Marriage, and the Conversations We Were Never Taught to Have – with Brian

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IN THIS EPISODE: At the end of each eight-week round of Doing It Together, Janna hosts a farewell call where couples gather together and she asks one powerful question: What surprised you most about your Doing It Together journey? In this episode, you’ll hear honest reflections from real couples about their experiences — what they […]

194. Real Couples, Real Stories, Real Change: Inside Doing It Together

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IN THIS EPISODE: On the podcast today, Justin (the male mentor for the men’s group) and I pull back the curtain to share as real and honestly as we can what it feels like to progress through the Doing It Together program. We talk about: Even if you aren’t considering joining us in June, this […]

193. What It Really Feels Like to Go Through Doing It Together – with Justin

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IN THIS EPISODE: What if the problem in your sex life isn’t low libido… but the pressure, expectations, and conditioning you’ve been carrying for years? In this conversation, Erica shares how she spent years believing she was broken, trying everything from therapy to self-help advice to “fix” her lack of desire — only to discover […]

192. The Hidden Reason Sex Started Feeling Unsafe – with Erica