Have you ever felt at some point in your married life, “Why don’t I want sex like ever? Why does it feel unnatural, not spontaneous and definitely not hot and exciting like in the movies? What is wrong with me?”
I think a lot of people think that the only way to stop fighting about sex is to have it more. One person wants it less. And the other person wants to have it more. And the fighting is about not having it enough.
So it makes sense that the person who doesn’t want it as much will think, “Well, if I just somehow fix myself or somehow force myself to do it or somehow make it happen, then we’ll stop fighting about it and it will be all okay.” This is why women who come into my community often report feeling like there’s something wrong with them, that they’re broken, that they have to fix it.
If you’ve ever wondered where your libido has gone, you’ve probably also wondered at some point, “Is this something physical? There must be something going on with my hormones. Should I take a supplement?”
There is so much judgment about sex drives in our culture, and so talking about when they are mismatched is not as simple as it seems. So in today’s blog I’m going to be talking about what to do when your sex drives do not match.
In this episode, I chat with Ariana, a really fun mom, wife, business owner, podcast host AND author!!
We chat about all things marriage and business in a very honest way- how they’ve had to adjust their communication to work together, how a risk-taker and a safety-seeker find balance and I even share a little tip about how to have more productive work meetings 🙂
If you are ever curious about starting your own business or have already dipped your toes in the entrepreneurial world, I HIGHLY suggest that you go check out Ariana and her husband’s website: https://tomandariana.com/
They have a podcast, a book and all the support you need!
In this episode, I chat with Brittany, a refreshingly honest mom of 3 who opens up about her doubts about her marriage and being a parent.
We talk about her early marriage experiences, learning how to be independent, improving their sex life and orgasms. Yup, that’s where we ended up!
In this episode, I chat with the amazing and very powerful mom, Sandy Mclver about her journey with parenting a son with autism.
Mostly we chat about all things marriage- how they keep things strong, overcoming resentment, managing their son’s needs and much more.
If you’ve like to learn more about Sandy’s journey, you can find her on Youtube!
I think the majority of us have all been there. It’s been a while. You’ve had a dry spell and you’re feeling kind of awkward and nervous about getting into it. Here’s why I think it’s so challenging for us after some time. And I am like the queen of dry spells, believe me. I went for two periods of a year long in my marriage and lots of periods of months at a time of dry spells. So I know what it’s like and it’s super hard getting back in the saddle. Here’s why it’s awkward and hard.
When I was on the hunt to figure out what to do about my lack of desire to be with my husband in the bedroom, I was looking for solutions everywhere and I couldn’t find any. In fact, the solutions I found were, “Just do it. It’s good for your marriage.” Thanks. Super helpful.
So thankfully, years and years later, I have now figured out a solution and I’m going to share it with you today. And not only are you going to get the solutions, but you’re going to be able to figure out which one is specifically for you right now, which is really exciting because who wants generic advice? Not me.
The most common advice that I hear women get if they want to want it more, is to “just do it.” This advice makes me cringe because it’s so detrimental to women’s health and for wanting it more in the long term. Even though so many marriage professionals, and therapists, and counselors give this advice, it doesn’t work. So today I’m going to tell you what to do instead.