Pain during sex is a common issue for women, which is why I discuss it so often in my work. Yet, I’ve never dealt with the issue myself until very recently. For the last four months, I’ve been dealing with intense pelvic pain brought about by (cue the irony)…an intercourse injury! Despite this deep discomfort, […]

Do you always feel too tired for sex? If this is your go-to excuse in the bedroom, I have three questions for you to ask yourself to figure out what’s really going on, and what you can​ do moving forward. ​Question #1: What about sex feels tiring for you? Why do you need energy going into […]

When we talk about playful touch, there’s a story I ​repeatedly hear from women, especially those who waited to have sex until marriage. Before marriage, they feel all sorts of anticipation, excitement, and desire for their partner. Then, once sex is introduced, those feelings quickly disappear. The enjoyable, flirtatious, relaxing, fun touch they used to […]

Many women avoid all forms of intimacy with their husbands, including cuddling, kissing, and touching of any kind. They love their husband but recoil from advances and don’t understand why. If this sounds like you, please know you are not alone and you are not at fault for feeling this way. There is a solution […]

People ask me about the popular Love Languages all the time, but I have a different opinion than most. As a disclaimer, I’m not saying the concept isn’t helpful in relationships. They work beautifully when used correctly. Yet, I often see the Love Languages misused, causing more harm than connection. What are the Love Languages? […]

I’ve been reflecting on my teen days of learning about relationships and sexuality, back when I was 12 or 13. Everything people offered felt very unintentional. At home, there weren’t any conversations or education around relationships, sexuality, pleasure, or consent. At school, the education was very logistical, like how to put a condom on a […]

Time for a little tough love​. I see asking “Why?” as being an unhelpful question to ask when you’re looking at your needs as a woman. Stop the diagnosing! Us women commonly diagnose ourselves instead of simply getting our needs met. I had to learn to stop doing this years ago, otherwise I wasn’t going […]

Today, I’m sharing the simple way I teach my clients and participants to communicate boundaries. It’s helpful when their partners are struggling with the concept of boundaries. Or, if they don’t know why boundaries are needed in the first place. Boundaries are just facts. Boundaries are really simple. They’re just facts. That’s it! Boundaries are […]

I’ve got a story to tell you that I’m betting you can relate to. The other day, my husband put eggs in the pan for his breakfast and then walked away. The ‘nice’ thing to do would be to stir the eggs so they didn’t burn. But they were his eggs. He knew the plan. […]

Sexy talk does nothing for me.  By sexy talk, I mean the stereotypical phrases you’ve heard before, like “You’re so hot” or “I want you so bad right now.” These words shut down desire faster than a lightning bolt. It makes sense because there is a lot of pressure behind these phrases. Are you suddenly […]