For many years in my marriage, I felt like I was in a little tiny box with my sexuality, and it was so uncomfortable. I felt stuck. I felt suffocated in there. I have since come to realize that it was the box of distorted male sexuality which our culture promotes.
I get asked all the time. “How do I tell my husband that I don’t like sex very much?” I’m going to tell you my advice, but before I do that, let me introduce myself. My name is Janna Denton-Howes, and I’m a marriage coach. I also go by husband whisperer, and chief libido officer. I am the creator of two programs, 30 Days to Wanting it More and the Marriage Mastery Club.
Sex doesn’t have to be so darn serious! Today I’m going to share five funny sex moments of real life couples. Keep on reading if you want to know more!
I really believe that so much of the struggle that couples are dealing with when it comes to sex, is based around the fact that we are trying to emulate “movie sex”, rather than going for the real sex that most individuals will start to look forward to. My intention with this post is to help you focus on what really matters, not what you think should matter, and start to look forward to it. Before I do that, I want to introduce myself. My name is Janna Denton Howes. I am a marriage coach, and my specialty is sexuality, and helping women with low libido look gorgeous again, or for the first time. I am the creator of a program called 30 Days to Wanting it More.
I just received an email a couple of days ago from a woman who said I was charging too much money for my services. If you have ever wondered why marriage coaches, therapists, counsellors, etc. charge so much money, or if you’ve ever wondered that about me, this blog post is for you. Yes, I am going to be talking about taboo topics. I figure, I already talk about sex, so I may as well throw money in there too! I want to just be brutally honest and open with you about how I feel about this and I hope it will make you think a little bit about what our culture and society perceives as good value.
For the longest time, my husband and I had date night on Friday. It was one of the big things that we had done, trying to make our marriage successful, and to survive the years with young kids (I’m sure a lot of you can relate). However – there was a big problem about our Friday night date nights – they would often end in arguments. I’m not talking about little nippy things. A lot of times we would end up not being able to continue with the date night and going our separate ways. There are a couple of reasons this was happening.
The world is going crazy for Scott Moir and Tessa Virtue, Canadian figure skaters, who have just won the 2018 gold medal for their free dance skate in the Pyeongchang Winter Olympics. Everybody wants them to be in a relationship, even though they have said they are just friends. I want to kind of dissect a little bit why that is, and also what we can learn about their relationship for our marriages.
The last couple of days, I’ve been having to deal with some really scary stuff for me, and it all revolves around taxes and GST garbley-goop (yes, that’s a word, I just invented it). If you’re Canadian, you’ll know what I’m talking about. I’ve been on the phone with the government, panicking and feeling generally overwhelmed and basically losing my mind.
I think it’s so important to discuss how marriage really is – beyond the romantic fantasies of amazing couples and the happy selfie snaps on Facebook. So, in the spirit of truthfulness, I’m going to share with you how my Valentine’s Day went this year – how I really failed at it, and how my husband and I recovered.
Today I was in the kitchen making tuna and rice. It’s Saturday morning and we literally have nothing in our house. You guys ever have that? Where you’re like, “I’m hungry and there’s literally nothing to make except for leftovers and a can of tuna”? Well, that’s where I was at. I was really hungry, and while opening the can of tuna, I sliced my finger (okay, I guess sliced is a little dramatic… but it hurt, and I could feel the knife blade go in, and I already had low blood sugar. Usually I have to eat by 8:30 but it was like 11:30 at this point).