People ask me about the popular Love Languages all the time, but I have a different opinion than most. As a disclaimer, I’m not saying the concept isn’t helpful in relationships. They work beautifully when used correctly. Yet, I often see the Love Languages misused, causing more harm than connection. What are the Love Languages? […]

I’ve been reflecting on my teen days of learning about relationships and sexuality, back when I was 12 or 13. Everything people offered felt very unintentional. At home, there weren’t any conversations or education around relationships, sexuality, pleasure, or consent. At school, the education was very logistical, like how to put a condom on a […]

Time for a little tough love​. I see asking “Why?” as being an unhelpful question to ask when you’re looking at your needs as a woman. Stop the diagnosing! Us women commonly diagnose ourselves instead of simply getting our needs met. I had to learn to stop doing this years ago, otherwise I wasn’t going […]

Today, I’m sharing the simple way I teach my clients and participants to communicate boundaries. It’s helpful when their partners are struggling with the concept of boundaries. Or, if they don’t know why boundaries are needed in the first place. Boundaries are just facts. Boundaries are really simple. They’re just facts. That’s it! Boundaries are […]

I’ve got a story to tell you that I’m betting you can relate to. The other day, my husband put eggs in the pan for his breakfast and then walked away. The ‘nice’ thing to do would be to stir the eggs so they didn’t burn. But they were his eggs. He knew the plan. […]

Sexy talk does nothing for me.  By sexy talk, I mean the stereotypical phrases you’ve heard before, like “You’re so hot” or “I want you so bad right now.” These words shut down desire faster than a lightning bolt. It makes sense because there is a lot of pressure behind these phrases. Are you suddenly […]

I hear from so many women that they don’t know what they want in bed with their husbands. Their husbands are asking, “Tell me what you want. What should we do next?” But there’s a lot of panic, anxiety, and stress in figuring out how to “make it work.” I have three simple but profound […]

Ladies, it’s time to learn an important lesson, a lesson I personally use in almost every sexual experience I have with my husband.  We’re going to learn how to stay out of your head and reconnect with your body during sex. A lot of women struggle with this and there are many reasons for it, […]

​​Let’s talk about upgrades. Something rarely discussed around the sexual experience is the ​practical, environmental aspects that can really increase the quality of your interaction together and help you enjoy sex more. ​Women often do not consider these ingredients ​to be something to consider, question, or incorporate. I’m ​focusing on eight different categories​ you can […]

Sexually empowered… Being an empowered woman in the bedroom… What did you think of just now reading those words? What are the images that pop up into your mind? When I tell someone that I am a sex coach, they’ll often imagine that I’m having these wild and crazy experiences with my husband or maybe […]