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IN THIS EPISODE: As a teenager, John felt uneasy about the new sensations of arousal in his changing body. He wasn’t sure how to handle them, which led to persistent discomfort, performance anxiety, and awkward early attempts at intimacy with girls. During his university years, John moved past some of his self-doubt—but his behavior in […]

156. Exploring the Backlash of Performance Anxiety – with John (Part 1)

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IN THIS EPISODE: When Andrea met her husband, they shared an instant connection. She describes their early intimacy as “fun, easy, and pressure-free.” But after they got married, things began to shift. Sex became complicated, and Andrea started to wonder if something was wrong with her. She found herself checking the calendar, counting the days, […]

155. Healing The Secret Strain in a Picture-Perfect Marriage – with Andrea (Part 2)

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IN THIS EPISODE: Andrea, now 37, grew up in the 1990s, shaped by the influence of pop icons like Britney Spears and the Spice Girls. Back then, “girl power” looked like tube tops, perfect hair, and using every ounce of energy to grab—and most importantly, keep—the attention of boys. As a teenager, Andrea poured her […]

154. Empowered or Objectified? 90’s Girl Power Through Teen Eyes – with Andrea (Part 1)

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IN THIS EPISODE: In Part 2 of her episode, Shannon opens up about the next chapter of her story. After meeting her husband, she eagerly took the lead in their relationship—from their first kiss to exploring intimacy together. Remaining a virgin until marriage was deeply important to her, so they waited until their wedding night […]

153. A 20-Year Journey Through Painful Intimacy – with Shannon (Part 2)

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IN THIS EPISODE: Shannon grew up in a conservative Christian household during the 1990s, at the height of the purity culture movement. At just 14 years old, she signed a contract pledging to remain a virgin until marriage. Now, Shannon shares what she was taught during that time, how she navigated the strict “rules” meant […]

152. From Purity Promises to Parenting With Truth – with Shannon (Part 1)

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IN THIS EPISODE: Jess and her husband went through a slow but steady decline in intimacy, eventually reaching a point where they hadn’t had sex for years. While her husband assumed she had no interest, Jess thought about it constantly—carrying deep feelings of shame and guilt. They never spoke about it, and Jess felt completely […]

151. Why You Don’t Know What You Like And How To Figure It Out – With Jess

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IN THIS EPISODE: In the second part of Kate’s story, we discover what shifted in her marriage that caused her once-strong sexual desire to disappear—and why sex became a low priority in her relationship. When Kate started dating her future husband, she worried the passion might fade. But to her relief, it didn’t. Their sex […]

150. What Happened to the Spark? A Journey Through Marriage, Motherhood, and MS – with Kate (Part 2)

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IN THIS EPISODE: Kate’s story differs from many shared on this podcast. She was raised by atheist parents in a non-religious household. Although sex was never talked about, she educated herself by stealing books about sex from her grandmother’s library.  In her 20’s, she was part of the slam poetry scene and she and her […]

149. Shame-Free Sexual Freedom, Then Something Changed – with Kate (Part 1)

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IN THIS EPISODE: If you’ve been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, this is the episode for you! Justin and Sandra, married for 19 years, took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about […]

148. Details of a Sex Life Two Years Post Doing It Together – with Justin & Sandra

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IN THIS EPISODE: Questions include: Janna answers questions she’s received from men and women about her Doing It Together program. • I’ve never had a sex drive—not even before marriage. Will this program help me? • My husband is a good guy. What if the problem really is just me? • What if I already […]

147. Answering Questions From Men & Women About Doing It Together