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Today, I’m going to be talking about something that I think a lot of us women struggle with, me included. I feel like a little bit of a hypocrite making this blog for you, but I am learning alongside you and these are the steps that I am trying to put into practice when it […]

Ask your husband (the RIGHT way)

How to ask your husband to DO something (the right way)
From not good enough to connection: A path to intimacy in your marriage

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Have you ever felt not good enough? I think all of us ladies have, and today I’m going to talk about it. And what I’m actually going to be talking about is shame. Because most women, their experience of shame is not being good enough. Not being good enough wives. Not being good enough mothers. […]

Dealing with Shame

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I was giving a live webinar the other day and I was describing one of the most essential ingredients, I believe, of having a great sex life in marriage. And somebody commented, “So you’re basically talking about consent?” And I’m like, “Yes, it’s that simple.” Consent is not revoked once you get married. So today […]

Consent is IMPORTANT

Consent in marriage is SUPER Important
Getting Your Husband on board with change

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This blog is for you if you’ve ever wanted to get your husband on board with anything and if you think you might want to get your husband on board with something in the future. Maybe, right now, you want to get your husband on board with something like budgeting or housework or parenting or […]

Getting your husband on board

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Sometimes there are things in our culture that are said again and again and again. Phrases that really get in the way of our communication. And one of those is “common sense.” Let’s just set the record straight there is no common sense. There’s no common anything. Really the biggest challenge in communication is all […]

There is no “Common Sense”

There is No "Common Sense"
How to have Sex While on your Period

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Hi, it’s me Janna and I have my period today. If you could see me right now. My hair is not fully dry. Yes, I’m still clipping my roots and I haven’t put on makeup, but that’s just how I feel like today. And so I thought it was very fitting that I talk about […]

How to have period sex

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You know, I tried a lot of things when it came to improving my desire with my husband. I went to see many professionals and read many books. And the most common advice that I got, to try spicing things up, did not work. Okay, maybe it worked temporarily. But it did not really work.  […]

“Spicing Things Up” never works

How to have Sex While on your Period
How to Stop Fighting About Sex Without Having it More

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I think a lot of people think that the only way to stop fighting about sex is to have it more. One person wants it less. And the other person wants to have it more. And the fighting is about not having it enough.  So it makes sense that the person who doesn’t want it […]

How to stop fighting about sex

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If you’ve ever wondered where your libido has gone, you’ve probably also wondered at some point, “Is this something physical? There must be something going on with my hormones. Should I take a supplement?”  What’s going on? Often that happens because a lot of women experience a drop in their libido after they have kids. […]

Supplements WON’T help

What hormone supplements won't do for your libido
What To Do When Your Sex Drives Don't Match

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There is so much judgment about sex drives in our culture, and so talking about when they are mismatched is not as simple as it seems. So in today’s blog I’m going to be talking about what to do when your sex drives do not match. Good Vs. Bad So what kind of judgment do […]

Sex drives don’t match?